I know for myself I always joke about having to have a drink if the kids have been insane. I see it all the time on Facebook and social media. And honestly that’s great but sometimes, for some people, it’s not a joke. It’s a true struggle. Here’s a great post about that struggle.
Post by: Sara
“Mom”… once you get that title the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Not that you don’t welcome the challenge, but it is a challenge in every sense of the word. Whether you have the support of others in raising your children or not, chances are you bear a big brunt of the weight. Making sure that their lives are the best they possibly be, we moms sometimes wear ourselves into a whole.
So, what do we do to treat ourselves? Some indulge in a sweet treat, others buy themselves an outfit or piece of jewelry, however, some women pop a cork on the red wine bottle and have a glass or two at the end of the day to unwind.
Wine is Good for the Heart…Right?
What’s wrong with having a glass or two in the evening? Nothing at all. In fact, it has long been believed that having a glass of red wine a day could be beneficial for the heart. While there are no definitive tests to support such theories what is known is that there are antioxidants in red wine that can strengthen and protect the red blood cells around the heart. While this could be true, experts still say you shouldn’t drink anymore than one glass per day. After all, too much of anything can be bad for you.
Is Your Wine Drinking a Pleasure or Abuse?
There is a thin line between drinking a glass of wine because you simply enjoy a glass with your meal or at the end of the day and drinking wine because you need it to get through the day. What may have started off as a social occurrence or simple pleasure can quickly become abuse and/or addiction if you’re not careful. Knowing the difference between the two is essential to remaining safe.
Below are a few signs that you’ve probably gone too far with your drinking:
- You can’t stick to your limit – If you set a limit of a glass per day after work or with dinner, but you suddenly find yourself drinking two, three, and four times per day. This is a sign that you’re abusing alcohol.
- You drink every time you’re stressed – Women most certainly lead hectic lives, and as mothers it can get even more stressful. However, if we started drinking every time we were stressed out or overwhelmed, this is not a good sign. It means that you’re using wine or alcohol as a means to mask or get through your feelings which could develop alcohol dependence.
- You begin hiding your drinking – If someone you know reaches out to you about your alcohol intake and you begin hiding the evidence, this is a clear sign that you’re abusing alcohol and need to get some help before it becomes an addiction.
- Every occasion requires a drink – If you were once a social drinker and now drink everywhere you go (out to lunch with friends, in the morning with breakfast, with your dinner, and even with your dessert), you may be taking the drinking a little too far.
The Crossover From Abuse to Addiction
Every woman is different and therefore may experience addiction at different stages in their drinking. However, just as quickly as a glass of wine can become alcohol abuse, untreated abuse can quickly become an addiction. According to MayoClinic, someone suffering from alcoholism or addiction might experience the following:
- unable to limit or stop drinking
- extreme urges to drink
- sweating, nausea, and headaches if you try to stop drinking
- diminished relationships home and at work
- the increased need to drink more to get the same feeling
Realizing It’s Time to Get Help
Whether you begin to recognize the signs in yourself or your friends and family members address the issue, getting help is the only way to heal from alcoholism or addiction. However, before any form of help will work it will be important for you to understand there is a problem and have the desire to want to fix it. While your family and friends will be great support systems throughout your healing process, you are the deciding factor on whether or not you will recover.
Seek Treatment from a Rehab Facility
Because alcoholism is detrimental both physically and mentally (and also potentially fatal to kick on your own), it is best that you consider in-patient treatment and alcohol rehab. Rehab facilities are locations where those suffering from drug and/or alcohol abuse can receive treatment. Such treatments might include detox, one on one therapy, and other medical and holistic approaches. There are various rehabilitation centers out there, and so you should have no complications in finding a facility that will cater to your needs.
Moms, there’s no denying the fact that motherhood can present a lot of big changes that can get pretty stressful and crazy at times, and sometimes we want to celebrate and appreciate ourselves. I certainly don’t believe there’s anything wrong with having a glass of wine from time to time, but as described above, it is pretty easy to fall into a pattern of abuse and eventually addiction.
If you recognize yourself or a friend in any of the above described symptoms and warning signs, the best thing you can do is get help. Working with rehab facility is the best option for sorting through the underlying causes of your alcohol problems and helping you to find healthier alternatives to handling stress and emotion.